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One of my favorite stories from Chovos HaLevavos is that of a certain chassid <\/em>(as in close to Hashem<\/em>, since it was written centuries before the Baal Shem Tov, founder of the Chassidus <\/em>movement, was born,) who had traveled to a distant country for business. He heard the natives there discussing their gods and he chuckled. Upon noticing this, a native asked him which god he served.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI serve the One, true G-d,\u201d said the man. \u201cThe One who created the world and takes care of all His creatures.\u201d The native replied that the man\u2019s actions contradicted his words. \u201cCan your G-d not provide for you at home? Why do you need to travel so far away to this land?\u201d Taken aback by the truth of the native\u2019s words, the man packed up and returned home. He never chased parnassah <\/em>(livelihood) again, concludes Rabbeinu Bachya<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Presumably, the man no longer chased after it, but rather engaged in business with a healthy measure of bitachon<\/em>, making appropriate hishtadlut <\/em>(effort) without believing it was his effort which made the difference. He therefore didn\u2019t need to travel far afield or interact with people who could be a bad influence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hishtadlus or Lack of Awareness of God?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

This story has made an intense impact on my life and I often think of it when I\u2019m tempted to make \u201ctoo much\u201d hishtadlu<\/em>t, or forego a mitzvah opportunity for the sake of \u201cparnassah<\/em>.\u201d However, there are times when I do need to travel for work, and I\u2019m about to tell you about one of them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Needing to be at two locations in rather remote areas on consecutive days, I drove the 6 hours the day before I needed to be there and took a hotel room. The fellow who checked me in was quite friendly and helpful. I went upstairs and put my things in the room before heading out to a nearby store. When I was up there, I noticed that the room had some issues.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The hotel itself was a bit dated, but I realized that in outlying areas where you probably don\u2019t get many travelers, you\u2019re not going to invest in renovations every two years. I can live with that. However, I noticed that the sheer curtains in the room were literally shredded at the seams, possibly vandalized by a previous guest, and the blackout curtains wouldn\u2019t close all the way. On my way out, I showed the pictures I\u2019d taken to the front desk person, who told me he\u2019d leave a note for the manager who would be in at 7am. He was sure she\u2019d want to know about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

An Early Awakening<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Of course, the sunrise through the open blackout curtains woke me much earlier than planned, and when I went down to find the manager (who arrived late, only as I was walking out) and explained to her what I\u2019d experienced. I\u2019d expected the same shock and apologies I\u2019d had from the front desk clerk, but that was not to be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Instead, she almost argued with me. She told me that the blackout curtains have a stop they\u2019re not supposed to go past. I explained I was aware of that, but that the stop usually is in the center, not only \u00bc of the way closed, which was my situation. She asked if I wanted to switch rooms but I said I was running to a meeting and didn\u2019t have time to do so. I left.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Upon my return that evening, I found that the sheer curtains had been replaced. The new ones looked like they\u2019d been crumpled in a ball, but they were whole. I also noticed that the blackout shades were now fully drawn in the room. While I was out, they\u2019d taken care of the items that needed to be fixed. However, I wasn\u2019t so excited.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s Not What You Do But How You Do It<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Yes, the manager had done what I had asked, but the way she did it felt like it was grudgingly and not with any appreciation for me as a valued guest. I\u2019m the reason she has a job, but she treated me like a burden. Though she\u2019d fixed the room, I was less than happy. I indicated so on the survey they sent me, and I got an apology e-mail from the manager that they hadn\u2019t lived up to my expectations, but without ever realizing that SHE was the problem! Now, on to the takeaway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hashem is the reason we are here on this planet. He provides not only our salaries, but the very air we breathe and the lifeforce in our bodies. When he gives us a list of things He\u2019d like us to do or correct, what will happen if we argue with Him? If we suggest they\u2019re not important, or if we show that we\u2019d rather not have to do what He asks us, how will He feel about the actions and mitzvot we do in that manner? Is it possible that even if Hashem \u201cgets His way\u201d He might still be disappointed by the way we did them; without joy, without gratitude, and perhaps with some grumbling?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let’s Approach Mitzvot with Joy!<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

We\u2019re approaching Elul and the Yamim Noraim (High Holy Days), when the most important One of all will be completing a survey about our performance. When we do mitzvot we should be thrilled at the opportunity to make Hashem happy, and never look at them as a burden, chas v\u2019shalom<\/em> (God forbid). Now that we know how important it is to try to serve with joy and appreciation, we have a better chance of scoring high, and getting a solid approval rating if we do. I\u2019m sure I had this opportunity to see it from the other side just so I could share this insight with all of you. You may never have to travel from home, but this is a great idea to move on, wherever you are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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